5 Common Myths about Setting Health Boundaries
Boundaries are the limits on your time, energy and space that relate to your emotional, physical and spiritual needs.
Every time we give away our power and we don’t implement a boundary, we are re-inforcing beliefs and habits that do not serve us.
Yet implementing boundaries when we simply aren’t used to doing so can feel hard, scary and be loaded with stories that simply aren’t true.
Here are 5 common myths about setting boundaries that are holding you back:
- Means pushing people away
What’s the alternative here; Let people walk over you?
If setting boundaries means certain people don’t like it, then it’s on them, not you! The people who truly respect you will respect your boundaries, but for them to respect you it requires YOU to create that standard in the first place.
2. Is rude and selfish
It’s all in HOW you communicate.
First you need the right words, but then it’s all about tone, confidence, timing and most of all, you upholding them.
Selfish is just a perception after all, healthy boundaries are actually a way to create deeper trust, respect and connection with people.
3. People will think badly of you
People just don’t like change.
It doesn’t mean they think badly of you, it means they have been used to a certain way and now that change feels uncomfortable.
That’s okay, change IS uncomfortable and if they still feel badly of do you really want people like that in your life?
4. You don’t deserve to have them
This one is deep. Healthy boundaries start with you having awareness and respect for your own emotional, physical and spiritual needs.
We can be taught early on that we are not worthy and that’s why we often betray ourselves for everyone else.
The true work in setting healthy boundaries really starts within…
5. Means saying NO all the time
Whilst I am a huge advocate for NO being a complete sentence, there are so many ways to implement boundaries that are verbal and non-verbal.
Remember if you’re saying NO to something or someone, it usually means you are saying YES to you.
Saying YES to you is how you build greater self-love and self-trust and when your cup is full, it allows you to give MORE to the projects and people around you…
Access the free workshop as I cover the 4 fundamentals:
1. What happens when we habitually avoid having boundaries
2. What healthy boundaries actually look like
3. How to implement them
4. The somatics (what happens in your body) of boundary setting when you do so
My workshops take a practical approach so you will leave with 1–3 boundaries that you can start to practice implementing straight away, with confidence, in your career or business and life.
When you sign up you also receive a free script of what to actually say when you are implementing a boundary, (if saying “No” feels a little too bold right now!).
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